Finding your path is not an act of searching, it is an act of allowing. When you let go of what you think should be, you allow what is meant to be.
While this may sound trite, it is simply the act of following your heart moment by moment. Your purpose is already built into your being.
When you follow your heart, your inner GPS, you are nudged in the right direction.
Because what finding your path bores down to is living life to the fullest . It comes down to following what feels alive to you, and doing your best, in this moment.
But There is a Dangerous Obsession
That obsession is a chase for clarity. We think we should know where we’re going, or even who we are.
We look for concrete things to grab onto, such as a plan, an identity, or confirmation that we are good enough.
But none of those things are relevant. What is relevant is the willingness to take one step at a time toward what feels most alive to us.
When you let go of trying to know what’s going on, you become truly free.
You realize that there is only the act of living life one moment at a time. Everything else is a figment of your imagination, a thought filled with puffs of smoke.
How to Uncover Your Path in Life
While there is no formula to uncovering your path, there are common elements.
Because as I have already mentioned that its not about figuring anything out. It’s about letting life figure itself out.
You see, your purpose is already within you. All you have to do is get out of the way.
Just like birds know when to fly south, so do you know where to go through what feels most alive.
So how do you follow your inner GPS? Here’s what I do:
1. Stop the Search
The first step is to stop the search. Call off the dogs.
Life is not something my mind can grasp. Speculation is possible. Certainty is not.
As you relax, you begin to notice that you have an inner GPS working for you. You have access to feelings and nudges.
But overthink, worry, or try to figure things out and those signals are drowned out in a sea of frustration.
It may feel like life will fall apart if you stop trying to control, but I’ve found the exact opposite to be true.
Don’t worry that your life is turning upside down. How do you know that the side you are used to is better than the one to come? Rumi
You don’t know what is going to happen. You don’t know what the future holds. So you might as well relax.
2. Use What You Have
When I work with people, I notice a sense of urgency, a rush to success.
If someone wants to be a writer, they want to have written their book. They want to already be a successful author just in one day.
They’re focused on destinations forgetting that life is a process a journey.
To yearn for an achievement is to yearn for an artificial sweetener. It may taste sweet at first, but it has no substance.
Instead of thinking of what you don’t have, focus on what you can do with what you have. Focus on right here, right now.
If you feel the urge to write, then write. Start a blog or journal. Write flash fiction. It doesn’t matter if you don’t have an audience. What matters is that you start.
Remember, it’s not up to you to figure out where you are going. It’s up to you to follow your heart, your GPS.
The birds do not worry when they fly. They simply fly.
3. Discard Virtual Reality
We all have a picture of what success looks like or what it should look like.
We are programmed by TV, case studies, blogs, and society in general.
However, your path has nothing to do with what people have done. You are you. This is your life, your path.
The sooner you discard the virtual reality in your head, the sooner you can start accepting where you are.
This is not about adopting a defeatist attitude. This is about stepping out of your head, and into reality.
It is only when you start living in the present moment that you can move forward.
The only thing that matters is following what makes your heart sing. And you do that by starting where you are with what you have.
But Surely We Must Plan?
This is not about discarding thinking altogether. This is about discarding thinking that is not useful.
Plan if it feels alive to you. Figure things out if it is exciting.
But to force yourself will only exhaust you. To try to control will only depress you.
And to be honest, what I say does not matter. Follow your heart. Follow your excitement. Your path is already here. No searching is needed. Only a recalibration of where you get your marching orders.
To uncover your path in life, dive into this moment. Discard assumptions, expectations, and outside programming.
This has never been about finding anything, but about noticing that you have everything you need to take the next tiny step. There is no rush. No need to quit your job, to be famous, or to be successful. Accept where you are and work with what you have.
And listen to what feels alive, magnetic, exciting, fascinating. Start your journey. Do what you can. Drop all expectations, because you do not know where life will take you.
(Excerpts from Henri’s Wake up Cloud)