If there is one thing that is always constant is change. You are constantly changing, but it’s hard to notice until it pokes you in the ribs.
Now, let us talk about CHANGE. It’s not even a question of if you are changing; it’s a question of in which direction are you changing.
As humans we have various reasons why we want change. Most people want change because they want to escape from one life challenges or the other, but it doesn’t work that way.
It is by facing your inner demons that you heal yourself and change your life for the better. If you run from your challenges they will come hunting you in future.
Below are the things you can do to change your life and break that shackles forever
1. Take Tiny Steps
Most people expect rapid life change. If they’re wasting their time at a soul-sucking job, they expect success and fame within six months. Forgetting that life itself revolves gradually.
People who need life changes right away like 2minutes noodles don’t realize that its doesn’t work that way. I know you will say it worked for someone but you forget that all the fingers cannot be measure same way.
If you are not careful, you might hurt yourself in the process of comparing yourself with another person.
Life is a continuous process and every day brings its own task. When you realize that after climbing one hurdle another set in then you are set to face reality.
So, realize that there will always be problems in life. It’s not our job to eliminate them, by to doing our best, take tiny steps, and see where life takes us to.
2. Take Quantum Leaps
Something I’ve learned in working with people is that changes can happen in an instant. Pains, fears, and negative emotions can vanish and be replaced by something more useful.
This may seem contradictory to what I said above, but it isn’t. It’s not either/or, it’s both because we don’t live in a black and white world.
As you keep taking one step at a time, you will eventually reach a tipping point where you’re thinking shifts quickly.
The problem is that most people never get to those shifts. They stop drilling when they are about to hit gold.
3. Accept Where You Are
In life, things come and go. People live and die. Your life feels good and it feels bad. The more you accept this, the easier it is to change your life.
In fact, I would say life changes for itself when you stop pushing and start doing the right things. Accept where you are, think about things you are doing now. If you are not doing it right, calm down and start doing it right to achieve the right results.
4. Be Patient
Patience is key to attaining a change. In been patience absolute determination to succeed is required.
It doesn’t matter what’s going on. There will always be problems. But don’t let it clutter up your whole life. Be patient with your progress. Stay true to your heart.
You can change your life, sometimes it just happens in its own time.
We all have memories, painful memories. What you may not realize is that the person hurting you with those memories is you.
You are the director of your own mind. Though, the event may have happened in the past, it’s you who keeps playing them over and over again.
Reliving the past will get you nowhere. That’s why it’s essential to forgive and forget all those people in your memories.
You don’t even have to forgive. All you have to do is pay less attention to those thoughts and memories.
Once you see that the only one suffering is you, the grip tends to loosen.
Healing yourself goes hand in hand with point # 5. When you know that you can let go of past memories, fears, and obstacles, your self-confidence grows.
Most people aren’t ready for life changes. They avoid any and all solutions, because they are comfortable where they are.
And that’s fine with me, but if you make that choice, you have no right to complain or make excuses.
You either choose to be where you are, or you choose to change your life, the choice is yours.
Healing starts with seeing that you are not your thoughts; you are the awareness behind them. Thoughts come and go, but your true nature never changes.
7. Face Your Fears
When you face your life fear, possibilities open up. Have it in your mind that fears don’t disappear, they simply become less important when you decide to face it.
And remember, this is not about comparing yourself to someone else. This is about following your inner GPS, and living the life you were meant to live.
8. Kill Your Excuses
Your excuses are mere illusion.
You may have excuses about why you can’t follow your passion and build an online business, but are they really true?
If you really wanted to you could take one tiny step forward because that all its takes. That One Tiny Step
Then see what happens, re-assess, and take another step.
9. Take Responsibility
People generally want to change their life, but they aren’t willing to take responsibility.
They wait for a messiah to sweep in to save the day and make change effortless and comfortable.
I hate to burst your bubble, but it’s not going to happen. When you take responsibility for the life you’ve created, you can begin to move forward
If you are blaming someone else for your situation, you are stuck
Learn to make decisions from your inner authority.
10. Follow Your Heart
And when I say following and listening to your heart I mean it in the broadest sense of the word. It can mean anything, such as following your gut, intuition, feelings, or going with the flow of life.
When you begin putting the pieces together, and taking responsibility, and healing yourself, you naturally begin to follow your heart, your inner GPS.
11. Follow Your Passion
What most people are trying to do in life is they are listening to outside influences, without even knowing.
You want to do your research and know whether or not your idea is viable, but if you don’t do something you’re passionate about; your car will run out of fuel sooner or later.
It is your passion that will fuel your journey for the rest of your life.
The problem is that you may not know how to even start finding and following your passion but when you are stay tuned with what you believe, things will surely click.
Ever had the experience of your mind racing out of control? It almost feels like you’re going crazy, doesn’t it?
A great way to calm yourself and your mind down is to meditate. Five minutes of meditation can do a whole lot.
Meditation has taught me to see through the dance of thought. I have thoughts, I have worries and I have fears.
But I can observe them without getting too involved. It’s not always so simple, but knowing that I am not my thoughts is a tremendous help.
What’s important is not to just know it intellectually, but to see how you create your experience of life.
13. Express Yourself
I find writing therapeutic. It’s something I love to do. It calms me. It’s inspiring and it infuses my life with serenity.
I highly recommend you try journaling or just writing down your thoughts after every day. If you’ve tried to solve problems in your head, you know it doesn’t work.
You can have a conversation on paper, free write, and solve problems easily. It has the ability to change your life completely.
14. Kill Your Comfort Zone
If you want to change your life in the most positive sense, get comfortable with being out of your comfort zone.
When you’re learning something new, you’ll bump into the walls of your comfort zone. Your spirit yearns for freedom; it’s when you put yourself into a little box that your spirit feels the need to rebel. You start feeling bored, and restless.
You don’t have to suddenly infuse your life with discomfort. All you have to do is dip your toes from time to time.
Let’s face it. You don’t know what you want.
Most people think they know what they want. They make five and ten year plans, acting as if they know all the variables of life.
I’m on board with making plans and setting goals but I don’t rigidly stick to them. You will miss opportunities if you disregard the whispers of your heart, if you trade the present moment for the future.
You miss life.
It’s like driving with all the windows painted black except the front window. You see where you are going, but you miss everything else.
Accept that life brings you possibilities. You don’t always know where your life will go. But go with the flow, and you will be where you need to be.
In order to change your life, you have to change your focus.
If you don’t take control your mind it will run amok. You will focus on the negative. You will imagine the worst possible scenarios.
What works for me is to focus on who is aware of the thoughts swirling in my head.
There’s awareness there.
When I focus on it, I almost immediately relax. I see how my thoughts take me on a roller coaster ride of emotions. One day I can feel fine, and one day I can feel miserable.
The only difference is thought.
But there’s one thing most people miss when I share this: I’m not talking about changing my thoughts. I don’t try to change anything. Instead, I observe my thoughts, and let them be. I’m mindful of what’s going on.
I love reading.
We live and die by stories. My life has changed several times by reading a book.
The stories you read have a profound effect on how you view the world. You can be stuck on a problem, and the solution can pop into your mind while you’re reading.
Your mind does not work sequentially. You can be reading something, and then something gets click and your life changes forever.
And as you’re reading these very words, it causes you to think, doesn’t it?
In order for you to make sense out of the funny letters you see here, you have to go inside, and make sense out of it from your own map of the world.
Change is inevitable. It’s all about in what direction you’re changing.
18. Befriend the Unknown
You never know what you need. Remember point 15, going with the flow?
When you are open to the unknown, which is a synonym for possibility, you accept that life may bring you something negative to teach you a positive lesson.
God factor has helped me realize what’s truly important in life. It isn’t money, or material wealth, although those things can be nice. Friendship is important
You just never know what life will bring, so you might as well become curious.
19. Reclaim Your Personal Power
Stop looking to others for approval, just like taking responsibility (#9), you have to reclaim your personal power.
You know what to do. You can feel it. You just haven’t been listening to that inner voice until now.
It’s easy to give the decision to someone else, but it’s your life. The sooner you realize that, the more fun you will have.
What do you want to do right now?
If you don’t know, then start somewhere, because action will bring clarity.
20. Accept Failure
You will make mistake.
And you won’t even know if they are mistakes when you make them, because mistakes and failures have a tendency to transform into blessings.
You only fail if you give up, so if you never give up, you can never fail, only learn, and grow.
21. Remember Who You Are
And above all, remember that you are always more than you think you are.
You are more than your problems, more than your fears, and more than your body.
It’s only when you focus on your problems and believe them to be you that you get into trouble.
So, remember to relax, because life is way too important to take seriously
(Excerpt from Wake Up Cloud)